If you’re wondering why you don’t have too many friends is because there is only one thing wrong about you and that is the fear of rejection. No, there is nothing wrong with the way you look, the way you speak and the way you bring yourself. There is also nothing wrong with your favourite hobbies or your personality. However, a fear of rejection is holding you back to reach out and make friends with people.
When you put people on a pedestal, you have actually judged their personalities. This is understandable if the person is actually very important and you’ll need to set an appointment in talking to him or to her. However, if this is just your normal average person, you could always reach out and say hi to them without worrying.
But the fear of rejection is thinking about what if the person finds something annoying or undesirable about you. When they do, you actually feel that you do not need to talk to them. You shrug them off, telling them that you would not probably fit in their society and talking to them is something unnecessary.
Overcoming your fear of rejection is doable if you overcome putting people in pedestals. Remember, they’re the same as you; shy and thinking in the same way that you’re probably going to reject them when you talk. Opening up and showing them that you wouldn’t reject anybody you talked to is the key to talk to people that you don’t know and overcoming this particular fear.
In: Self Help · Tagged with: conversing, development, self, socializing, talking
Existentialism and philosophy promotes man’s most innate desires and objectives in the world as based on their self-interest. This means that everything a man or a woman wants does come from him or herself and only he or she could attain their particular end goal. This leaves out the factor that an intention could be affected by a decision or influence of another person.
For most people, especially cynics, the involvement of other people in affairs that are your own is the biggest annoyance and catalyst of many problems in the world. The involvement of other people in your interests raises the risk that you will not achieve the end result you were looking for.
However, it is highly important to talk to people. No amount of philosophy can cure the feeling of loneliness. Self-actualization is not possible without struggle and other people could either drag you down in your struggle or actually lift you up and aid you in your struggle.
Where bonds develop, responsibility and obligation also develops. This is where people are usually afraid. No amount of help goes unrewarded and most of the time, the rewards are future aids that the person who initially helped you will ask of you in the future.
However, loneliness is an opponent too powerful to overcome alone. This is why interacting with other people is important. This is why people succumb to the risk of pain just to alleviate the biggest pain of being and feeling alone.
In: Self Help · Tagged with: bonds, life, philosophy, relationships, social, socializing, society
Aside from the fact that you will get back your complete compensation through a PPI complaint, PPI complaints actually help the UK’s economy. UK’s economic outlook might look good through the growth policies enforced by Chancellor George Osborne, but the Office of National Statistics’ figures show that not only properties increase in price, but also the activities of consumers.
The ONS stressed that they noted a 13.4% increase in car registrations from the last months of 2012 to the early half of 2013. The increase in car registrations came as more banks enforced proper and timely PPI redresses. To know your actual refund amounts, you could consult a PPI calculator UK help websites and claims company websites could provide you.
Economists see PPI as more effective than quantitative easing and tax reductions because it actually delivers money for the use of household to invest or spend in any way. The ONS completely supports the fact that PPI repayments have been holding back household spending for many years until the government forced the financial industry to pay back all consumers.
A PPI calculator company representative said that banks are improving in treating their customers properly but they still have a lot of work to do to finally rid the UK of the mis sold PPI scandal.
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Many unemployed youth complain that their governments cannot provide them jobs. However, the reality is that jobs are readily available anywhere in the world, but most of the youth do not have the skillset needed for such profession or they are not interested by it given that it is a menial task that actually pays little to enough money.
The trouble with education is that it gives a student, especially the fresh graduate, a sense of direction and guarantee in life. A good college education will give anybody a fighting chance against today’s competitive and short-listed industries. However, the reality is that jobs for college skillsets need experience, as demanded by employers and to gain experience, sometimes you do not get paid or you even have to pay for such to be employed for experience.
This is understandable, given that clerical positions in a well-renowned business without pay gives you experience in the industry and guarantees you a higher salary once you get employed in a job that does not require experience. However, you will need money, and the best way to earn it is through a part-time job.
Expanding your knowledge is the kind of education you need; the more you know, the higher your chances of being successful in the career your college degree affords you. But for the meantime, you will need to start from below, where you will be juggling two jobs, one for your experience and one for your earning.
In: Self Help · Tagged with: analysis, education, jobs, self help, world
Most freethinkers believe that people built the image of a God so that they could believe in something that gave them strength. With the image of someone watching over their every activity, people started to understand the value of a common belief that empowers those who lacks wealth or power for themselves.
Religion and the image of God became a way for man to control his or her every action. Someone acting as the biggest controller of the world allowed men to control their aspirations in life. The biggest control religion gave was the ability to control other people, even the most powerful and richest of all people.
Anybody was bound to give back to the God created by the masses and the leaders of such who promote the idea of God. The richest will kneel down in front of such a deity, even the most corrupt. In a way, religion taught people to deny the very instinct they have to ensure a fluid and balanced society.
Today’s modern generation eschews the idea of religion or a common belief and they understand that they can control themselves. Every action they do is their responsibility. What comes with existentialism is a capability to control one’s self, but not in a way in stepping towards a common goal or belief, but the belief of one’s self.
Man has an infinite appetite for control, which matches his unparalleled appetite for power. Anybody who has the most power controls most of the earth.
But then again, power is responsibility. Would someone really want to be God? Being knowledgeable in a field gives you the responsibility of addressing yourself to become stronger and better as it is one’s pride to ensure that their power is in check.
In: Philosophy · Tagged with: control, existence, identity, power, self
How do people become legends in their own right? How do national heroes do it? Is it because they are passionate for their countries or for their own interest that they defy such inhuman or amazing feats? Many legends are amazing and ridiculous at the same time because the human is given god-like attributes that as far as we all know, don’t really exist.
However, anybody could be a superhuman if they could do the right things, and believe me, more often than not, the right things are the hardest things you could do. For example, if you’re fed up with your job but need money, the best option is to quit and find a lower paying job that you love. It is a hard choice to sacrifice stability, but if you could find your soul and inner peace, then you’re probably doing the right thing.
The road less taken is less frequent with people, which makes those who tread on such a path special. Anybody who faces adversity with courage and valour is one that becomes a legend and to face such adversity is a difficult task.
If you want to do something right, do something hard. Start working on the diet and exercise routine you have been putting off. You could start learning a new instrument to play. You could begin showing affection for your significant other or to your parents if you’re not used to it. There are so many things you could do right if you could just overcome the difficulty of doing it.
In: Self Help · Tagged with: development, life, motivation, personal, self help
Many people are often looked down when they try to escape the challenges of the reality they live in. When people are gravely stressed, they are criticised by the many for drinking too much or revelling away during the wee hours of the morning a time they could take a break from their daily lives. It may seem self-destructive, but escapism is also a good trait.
Anybody who understands how absurdist philosophies work understand that these people have accepted their reality and wading through it either passively or actively without even trying to find a solution to their dilemma at all. But an escapist wants to get out, struggles to get out and finds a way to get out.
Escapism allows one to think about a solution more clearly because of their desire to escape. In absurdity, the status quo is accepted and it is defined by your environment that you are wrong when you know you are right. Escapists retain their individuality and their understanding of their environment.
They retain themselves because they attempt to escape being imprisoned by their environment both literally and connotatively. They can resort to measures that are more radical. Such measures are self-destruction or distracting themselves effectively.
However, they do not accept and they become the gears of change in society and for themselves. What they realize through taking risks and exploring possibilities because of their intent to escape allows them to see things more clearly than other people.
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The British compensation culture is either a good or a bad thing, but it certainly gives anybody a chance to get compensated for any injuries caused by another party. You could file a personal injury claim for any injuries you suffered because of the carelessness of another party. Any negligence, including the lack of warning signs for obstacles, is a cause to file a claim for injury compensation.
One example of personal injury compensation is when you get in a car accident. The negligent party is the one to compensate you for your injuries, pay for your car’s repairs, pay for the rental of a temporary replacement car and face other litigations your legal representative pushes.
Another is when you get injured at work. Remember that your employer is the person responsible for their employees’ safety at all times inside the workplace. They are liable for any injury that happens to you whether it is your personal fault, other employees’ negligence, malfunctioning equipment or facilities.
Sometimes, even professionals can become negligent with their work. At any time a medical operation gets botched by a medical professional, you could actually file for medical negligence claims. It is important to consider this option to get compensated at the shortest time possible.
If you find it difficult to make your claim, you could always work with claims management companies such as the Personal Injury Claims Company to help you get started with your personal injury claim.
In: Legal · Tagged with: injury compensation, injury compensation claims, Law, legal, personal injury compensation
Stress is a contributor to tiredness, hopelessness and straightforward negativity, but stress is also an opportunity. When you come home from work knowing that you’ll need to beat the deadline set a few hours later and you cannot rest, you dread the stress that comes with it. But in reality, stress can help you by helping you achieve the following.
1. Physical Consistency
Stress can wear you out, but if you’re motivated to fight the urges and stay disciplined, stress can transform your body into an endurance machine. You experience stress when you exercises or do any physical activities in your job. When you know you’re getting stressed but you’re convinced it helps you become a better person, your body converts all those supposedly-negative experiences into positive ones.
2. Mental Consistency
Aside from your physical body, your mind decides when you’re tired and when you’re not. If you channel your energy and tell yourself that by pushing further you could improve yourself, you find passion and your body follows, strengthening your mettle in very stressful and pressuring situations.
Transforming all that negative energy into something positive helps you see the value of stress in life. When you realize that without negativity when you work or when you do your daily routines, the supposed rest days aren’t quite enjoyable especially when you know you spent two days without doing anything. Your creativity can make stress become a necessity to become inspired and make things.
In: Health, Philosophy · Tagged with: career, creativity, health, management, personal, philosophy, stress, work
If you are passionate about your job and you really love what you are doing, sometimes you tend to become a workaholic. While there’s nothing bad about being the employee of the year, it is important to get rest and let your mind have its own “fresh air”. You might be motivated right now, but if you don’t stop, an obstacle could definitely stop you simply because you run out of options.
Patience is a virtue in anything; anybody focusing on a project, such as an art or marketing project that they have wittily designed could face its obstacles and if a project head has “tunnel vision”, they might not find a good solution to their problems. This is why it is important for people to stop when they are still progressing smoothly with ideas flowing into their heads.
The best thing to do with flowing ideas is to list them down and save them for the next day. Keep it out of your mind for a while and focus on something else, such as reading a book. Later, reassess your ideas for the project’s flow and list down your new ideas. You’ll find that you have a better idea than the first one you initially thought of just because you had patience.
Motivation and passion is one thing. However, knowing when to stop and allow yourself to develop more ideas because you know you could do more is another. If you think you could better, stop and reassess your current status and take a break to clear your mind.